Here below is a snippet of George Blackwell's article.After reading that snipped I could not help but take note of the way most men will "Naturally React" when faced with the delima of a break up.check it out
First of all, especially for men, it is common to start stalking our ex. Somehow, we can never stomach the idea that while we're here feeling miserable over the break-up, she's out there having fun with her girlfriend and maybe even a good-looking macho guy. Our most natural reaction is to stalk her (for example, "accidentally" bumping into her at her favorite hangout or obsessively checking her Facebook profile twenty times a day). Unfortunately, this kind of stalking will only push her further away, as she will resent the intrusion in her privacy and will seek to cut you out of her life for good.
Are you thinking what I was thinking when I read that?
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You see it got me thinking...is there a "Natural Reaction" for women and if there was one, what is it and can we men learn from it when faced with the situation of how to act after a break up.
After researching for a while i came across a site called "Solve My Girl Problems" and here is what shark who published the post Handling Breakups at "Solve My Girl Problems" had to say about the Natural Reaction of women when faced with a breakup.Read on I think you will find this interesting
Women do NOT need to learn this stuff from a website or practice it. They know it inside it and out; it is somatically ingrained into their behavior and their understanding of the world. So after a break up, she is naturally inclined to try and look better, to act aloof, to get a rebound, to make you jealous; to doing all the right things that will make you want her back or regret your decision. YOU on the other hand, the Matrix owns your balls. YOUR first inclination is to call her and beg for her back; just like you’ve been conditioned into believing is the optimum way to fix a damaged relationship.snippet Source:http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2012/03/handling-breakups/
Looking at both snipped you will quickly realize that both writers with me making it three, agrees that the Natural Reaction of men after a relationship quake is a little childish and premature.whereas that of woman with out the intention to make their ex jealous is much more matured.There are exceptions but overall you too will agree women can play the game better.
Any way all of that just magnifies the already big question mark(?) how to act when your girlfriend breaks up with you?
Before you start the process of looking for answers to the big question, you need to ask yourself the all-important question: should I fix this relationship. After a relationship break up, you will understandably feeling lonely and lost.
This is not a good reason to try and get back with her, because these feelings can lead you to ignore the very real problems that lead to the relationship falling apart to begin with.
But if you look at the relationship and realize that your reasons for wanting to get back with your her are genuine, then it's time to take the right steps to mend the parts of the relationship that are broken.
You need to take a planned and measured approach, though, and not just go charging right in. You wouldn't run on a broken leg, and you need to take the same kind of care in healing after a relationship break up.Here below are some steps you can take to help guard you and will help you get answers to the question of how to act after a relationship break up
Step One: Date Someone Else
I know this seems like weird advice when you're trying to get your ex back, but this is a very useful step. The keyword here is date; this is not an invitation to start a full-fledged romance.
But dating other people will serve two purposes. One is that it will show you whether or not you should be trying to get your ex back: if you find you're not thinking about them and are thing about your date, then this is a sign that you may be moving on.
The other reason is that it will give you some space to reflection on your relationship and something to compare it to. This will give you the information you will need to do the next step.
Step Two: Know what went wrong
The cliché is that people that don't know their history are doomed to repeat it. This is rarely more true than in repairing a broken relationship. If you don't know exactly what went wrong, you won't be able to fix it, so it is very important that you figure out where things went wrong so that you can navigate around the reasons for your relationship break up.
Step Three: Use a Light Touch
Start slow and don't rush things. Do not, under any circumstances, expect things to immediately revert to the good old days before the relationship break up. You need to look at this as starting all over, and you need to let things progress at their own pace. Nothing will put your girl off faster than you trying to push them too far, too fast.
If you have read this post to it's entirety, it will certainly start you on the road to answering the main question on how to act after a relationship break up, however you may still need more advice and instruction. If this is the case, don't hesitate to look for the advice that will help you get back to the place where you were happy.