What is important however is what you will be doing after reading this post. My guess is 90% of what you are doing right now to get her back is exactly the opposite of what you should be doing and your actions are only fuelling the blazing fire of reasons why she dumped you in the first place.
Here's are some tips that would help show you what you should be doing instead:
Staying cool and focus after the break up;
Let's take a look at this scenario, there was a fight between you two, you yelled she did as well and she ended up making a statement like "I do not want to see your face ever again" and she finally slammed the door and walked out on you.
At first, in your mind it was just another fight and she will be coming back. But once the dust had settled, you started really feeling you've lost her like forever. What usually happens next is, panic sets in and You start doing what all of us usually do when we break up for the first time, calling her every day, sending one sms or email after another. You basically end up being a stalker before you even realize it.
You see, Contacting your ex after a break-up is obvious, but doing it the right way is what really matters. For a start you should know that no woman in her right mind will encourage anyone stalking her so that is a big NO...NO. What you should be doing instead is to stay calm, collect your thoughts and then try contacting her a few times. If she refuses to respond, then it is time to take it to the next step.
The next step is talking to her friends (I bet it is not what you wanted to hear). This is what many guys would avoid doing after a break up and I agree to some extent. You might even be thinking right now that impressing your ex's friends was hard enough when you were still going out with her, now that you guys have broken up and she probably have told her friends what a jerk you were makes it even difficult to approach them.
Trust me, when it comes to getting back your ex, her friends are exactly the people you need to be talking to.This is because they are the ones who can easily convince her. If you can get a little sympathy from them by telling them your own side of the story, the next time she mentions your name, they will definitely throw in a word or two in your favor
Let us be real, Must guys tern to let themselve go when they are feeling depressed.They start wearing the same clothes for several days in a row, they stop shaving their hair for a little too long.They do all these things thinking their ex might notice it and have some sympathy, No..No..No.This is exactly what you should not be doing.
I know it is really hard, but your ex girlfriend will not have any sympathy instead she might think as well as her friends that without her you are really a pig or worst still not worth going out with.What you should be doing is carrying on with your life as before,better still engage in other positive activities like going to the gym,intarcting with your friends.All these will make you feel better about your self and might even make her think on the other hand that she might have been the one holding you back from shinning.All that will make her also think you are actually some one worth going out with.
Being Open and truthful
Whenever next you have the opportunity to talk to her, you have to know what to say to her.Make sure part of what you are going to say includes explaining openly and truthfully what you were thinking when you had the fight that led to the breaking up.
Now I will admit, this is a hard one.If left to me no one would ever know I had a single problem in my life, but in reality, though, You will be better off admitting truthfully what your real problem was than covering it up.
It will be much easier getting your girlfriend back by keeping yourself respect and tackling the problem head on. Be cool and honest about what really caused the split and before you know, you will be on your way to reconciling with your babes.